For Jessica and Eddie Mendez, it's all about finding that balance -- juggling work, chores and their two kids. It's not always easy.
"We've been married for five years. it'll be six in July, and no, we've never had a discussion about who's gonna be the breadwinner," Jessica says.
Jessica isn't alone. According to a recent Pew Research study, only 29 percent of moms chose to be breadwinners, versus 71 percent who fell into the role by chance. That can affect how happy the couple is at home.
"The one thing that overwhelms me is that my whole family relies on me for the finances and the medical benefits and keeping the house and things like that," she added.
The study also shows women who aren't breadwinners by choice are often not happy with the way things are done at home. Jessica and Eddie said they have that down.
"I hang pictures up. I clean around the house, I make sure all the dishes are done, make sure the dishwasher is empty," Eddie said.
"He does what I put on the list for him," Jessica added.
"We have a list. I need a list," he conceded.
The list of cooking and cleaning chores are key to keeping this breadwinning mom happy.
"We say that I plan and he executes a lot of the times, and it works as long as he executes, and he usually does," she said.
What about finances? Jessica makes the money and all the decisions on how it should be spent.
"And once he makes the money, he probably still won't know the half of it because I will still be in charge of the money, but for little things like golf, if he wants to golf and it's gonna cost $50 for the day, but he has a job and he's getting paid, he can go do that," she said.
Despite a few disagreements, this family said they're all winning, no matter who brings home the money.
"I'm proud that I can do it for my family, especially because it's putting him through school," Jessica said, "And I know that the roles will be reversed."
A breadwinning mom who is more than happy to hand over her hefty title.