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7 wrongs don't make a right when choosing a partner

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The high divorce rate means thousands of singles are out looking for a perfect match for a committed relationship. The problem is many times they begin dating the same type of person they were married to for years. It's as if they have developed a pattern and they continue going back to it time and time again.

The chance of failing a second time is higher than the first time, and if you continually choose the type of person it didn't work out with before, you will continue having the same broken relationship you just left.

There are things you can see early within several dates which scream loudly that this is not a match made in heaven. Avoiding the pain, lies, games and emotional turmoil is possible if you pay attention, and find out these specifics prior to planning your next dream wedding.

  1. If this person shows little interest in getting to know you after more than two or three dates.
  2. If this person has no close friends. People who are giving and caring have close friends.
  3. If they lack insight into how what they say or do comes across, this is a bad sign. If they act surprised when you tell them the person they said something to looked hurt, happy or whatever, be warned, they most likely lack insight.  
  4. If this person cannot express how they feel about emotions, thoughts or beliefs. Communication is the number one predictor of happiness in a relationship. You must be able to connect.
  5. If this person cannot say they are sorry or admit to making mistakes. Do you want to be with someone "right" all the time, or "loving" all the time?
  6. If this person cannot respect or tell you what they appreciate about you.
  7. If this person has no desire for a relationship, all the love in the world or sex you give will not make them a marriageable partner. Forget about it and move on.

Who you live with or marry is one of the most important decisions in all of life. No matter how many times most of us hear it, we have an inside desire or belief that we will change our partner. We change by accepting or not accepting our partner's behavior. Many people struggle with the weakness of having at least one of these seven behaviors listed above, but if you find yourself dating someone who has more than two or three of the qualities on this list, it would be in your best interest to move on. Part of moving forward after a breakup is learning who you are again, and making sure the seven qualities on this list aren't yours. IF you want a faithful life partner and/or committed long-term relationship, make sure you are ready to be that type of partner for someone.

– Mary Jo Rapini

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