Why is it that what we need most is the hardest thing to get when we need it? On Black Friday. the one thing you won't see for sale, but we all need, is patience.
Shopping is an adventure for anyone in any store, mall or on their way to a store or mall on Black Friday, and the majority of people seeking the adventure have a warrior mindset with an attitude more like a war movie than holiday shopping. This is important to understand prior to setting out for your shopping experience. The one thing you can bet on is being pushed, talked to in a terse manner, and/or insulted in some fashion during some part of your shopping experience. Knowing this up front, may help you pack a little more patience before you go.
Here are some reminders to keep you calm and help you enjoy the madness:
1. It's important to remember that many of the people out there are not buying anything…they just want to feel as though they belong. Being among the masses helps validate normalcy and can help alleviate loneliness. Be kind, you don't know what your fellow shopper is dealing with and more than likely it isn't to steal the same deal you want.
2. No material item is worth being trampled upon, called a name, or pushed. Whoever is going to receive the item you are trying to buy won't appreciate your warrior attempts at purchasing it.
3. The idea of Black Friday for some people is a family tradition. Getting up early and making plans with family members to shop also involves people watching, taking time to enjoy a café or a hot cocoa, and celebrating the excitement of the holidays. It's important to keep this "fun part" in your shopping experience.
4. If you get stressed with crowds, find an offsite bench where you can enjoy feeling like part of the crowd without the stress of being in the crowd.
5. Since everyone else is going to be stressed and driving erratic, make sure you have planned calming music for your car, have plenty of gas, and know your way. Traffic jams happen when people do not plan ahead, run out of gas, and suffer car problems that have been neglected, or shop in an area they don't usually travel. The best deals may not be at the most popular stores, but the highest stress is.
Black Friday can be a wonderful way to usher in the holidays, but impatient and stressed out people can do things that rob the joy of this day. Take a deep breath, use prayer and laughter, and remember the reason for Black Friday isn't necessarily to get a deal as much as it is to celebrate the craziness with those you love most.
– Mary Jo Rapini